When Making A Sandwich Is A ‘Crime Against Feminism’
By Robert Gehl
You know we’ve reached the end of the era of “modern feminism” when it’s a sin to make your husband a sandwich.
That – plus plenty of berating, insults and heckling – is what a wife in Australia had to deal with when she asked her closed group of some 26,000 Facebook moms for advice on tasty lunches for her hubby.
“I would love to hear what other mums make their hubbies for lunch and snacks throughout the work day,” Maddie posted last week. “We are getting over sandwiches.”
The reaction was nothing short of surprising – in fact, you’d think she asked for a recipe for hemlock, judging by the responses.
She was told she was nothing but a “slave” and a “1950s housewife.” She was “weird” for demeaning herself to make lunch for her husband. Then it got angry.
Here are some of the responses. And this is where radical feminism blows up:
- “Your husband is a grown up and you’re not his mother,” wrote one member of the North Shore Mums Facebook group.
- “My husband can make his own damn lunch.”
- “I make my husband the same thing he makes me. Nothing!!”
- “Stuff that, hubby is a grown man. I already do his laundry and keep his children alive.”
- “Our advice is to stop making his lunches.”
- “My role is childcare during working hours and that’s it.”
- “He’s lucky if I decide to make dinner some nights”.
- “I was married for twenty years and my favourite packed lunch for my husband was called a Get it Yourself with a side order of I’m not your mother.”
- “Nope, I didn’t sign up for that at the altar. But in the spirit of being helpful… pickled onion stuffed in mandarins.”
Leading the attack against Maddie was Polly Dunning, who last year wrote about how traumatized she was when she realized she was pregnant with a boy.
“I felt sick at the thought of something male growing inside me,” she wrote.
Dunning replied to Maddie: “You should pack him nothing for lunch. And you didn’t really ask for advice, you asked what other ‘mums’ pack their ‘hubbies’ (which, to me, is slightly weird phrasing, but whatever).”
After one week, Maddie turned off the comments and page administrators deleted the nastiest posts.
“I’m actually so devastated about some of these comments,” wrote Maddie.
She and her husband are saving up to buy their first home and, “he works in an extremely physically demanding job, he does housework, he cooks dinner every second night… He gets up in the middle of the night with our Bub. He is a champion. The least I can do is make him a bloody sandwich. I love my man, he deserves to eat lunch and we can’t afford to eat out.”
Luckily, there were an army of Maddie supporters who rushed to her defense:
- “Is it really a massive issue if Maddie wants to make her husband lunch?!?”
- “Wow, so much hostility here… Surely nice actions like these get reciprocated in happy marriages.”
- “Good on you! My husband is a builder, and his job is so physical, and he is so hands on at home! It’s the least I can do.”
- “I never know why these posts always turn into a husband bashing.”
- “I think it’s pretty crappy to assume someone is a slave or 1950s housewife for making lunch. Feminism is about choice.”
- “All I can say is some women really must resent their husbands by their responses. Looking after your partner is the way to a happy marriage.”
- “I’m so confused by the negativity on this post. I love making my hubby lunch… He does so much for us as a family and for my girls I see nothing wrong with wanting to look after your husband!!”
- “If I can help in some small part to make his day easier, I will. His hours are ridiculous and if me doing this means he gets to hang out with our son more I am all for it!”
- “He does so much for me and the kids. Making two sandwiches a day doesn’t put us in the dark ages.”
- “Marriage is a partnership. If only more think like that there will be a lot less divorces in this world.”
When the “War of the Sexes” revolves around making lunch, you know the debate is over.
H/T: Fox News